I just don’t know where to actually go from here. I’m SO sick and tired of trying to date online. I’ve single for almost 5 years, been using online dating apps for 4.5 years. Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, POF, you name it.
Last time that happened because we both rotated being sick. First it was her and then it was my turn. Kinda wanted to keep lurking but this stuck a key with me. I was in a similar situation and I turned to OLD because I thought that was the only way.
Anyone else given up on online dating (for good)?
For me texting is for setting up or confirming a date, or a last minute cancellation, full stop. Hi, I’m female and I always ask to add someone on social media before meeting and I presume these are the same reasons she wanted to add you.. For me old is the only way for now, I was in a long term relationship, and that’s been the only one I’ve ever been in. Approaching women irl is something I think I’ll have to work myself up to. Posts that have few relevant answers within the first hour, and posts that are not appropriate for the tag will be removed.
Even something as simple as me having a psychiatrist has brought on weird looks. At this point, the longest I’ve been in a relationship is about 3-4 months. I’ve accepted I’m not good at dating, which is why I’m in this sub hoping to learn something. But online dating isn’t going to be a part of my equation. It makes me feel worse about myself than accepting being alone.
I guess you said you knew her professionally which is different, but I’ve had a quite a few of these. I try to weed them out pretty quick. I’ll usually block them if they are trying to take things to Snapchat or insta right away.
How do I (33M) still make it a good thing in online dating when my text personality and real life personality are different?
Even if they are genuine, get to know me in person, not by what you find on my social profiles. Sounds like she thought you had something to hide, like a wife, if you wouldn’t add her on FB. I wouldn’t even add a date on Facebook until we’re well into an exclusive relationship.
But I’m also someone who enjoys being alone and who rather ends up single than settling for someone I don’t really want. I’ve had two long-term boyfriends in my life and I met both of them organically. That was years ago though, when it was easier to meet guys (pre-Corona, university times, basically all men my age being single etc). I’m tired of online dating, I feel like it’s a huge waste of time and I deleted all my profiles.
I wonder if this has been the reason that so many online dates I’ve been on have been duds. In the past, I’ve met some really good people through dating apps. Apps like Tinder (I haven’t used it in years, not sure if the business Smash app cost model has changed) are fucking dumpster fires. One example is when I went out on my first date with a girl I met on Tinder, she showed up high on opiates or something and kept slurring, stroking my face, and nodding off.
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I’ve always felt that online dating is littered with trash people, and only 10% succeed because they’re chasing results. So OP, in closing, yeah I’ve given up on online dating, but I don’t think you shouldn’t follow in my footsteps. I barely have an idea where I’m going. Everything about online dating – your amusing stores, advice, and encouragement when you need it.
Let me tell you- I’m not looking for a supermodel. Of course I want someone that I find attractive, but I def don’t think I have unrealistic standards. But I’m 32 and I know what I want and what I don’t want. And I really feel like I have tried, I have put myself out there and it just never worked out for me. Maybe it’s me, maybe I’m the problem and I expect too much or I’m too picky.
My sister met her boyfriend on an app and they have been together three years now. It took me about 2 years but I met someone really lovely (didn’t work out) but nonetheless I feel pretty confident to keep looking. I hate it and it makes me anxious.